Suffering does not make you stronger; learning does.

May 27, 2020 | 0 Comments | 3 Min Read

Judson L Moore

By Judson L Moore Travel addict. Ambitious about making the world a better place. Writing what I learn along the way. Follow me on twitter. Find me on facebook.

Suffering does not make you stronger; learning does.

“I had to suffer when I was your age, so you do too; it builds character!” Does this sound familiar to you? I’m afraid I have to disagree with this sentiment. “Character” can be learned in any number of ways, and struggles of the previous generation should not be the struggles of today’s generation. There are plenty of ways to build character. There is no reason to repeat preventable mistakes when they are easily avoidable.

Believing that the repetition of the previous generation’s struggles is a rite of passage seems to be more like a way to stifle human progress and creativity than to advance it. When we learn from others’ mistakes without having to repeat them ourselves, it allows us to develop and discover new problems that need solving.

There is much to be learned from those who came before us. Whether it is someone who stops to tell us the bridge ahead is flooded and we shouldn’t drive there, or it is our grandparents relaying lessons learned after decades of experience, there is plenty we can and should learn from our predecessors. Repeating struggle is inefficient and should be avoided where possible.

Learn something new

Challenge yourself to actively learn something new regularly. I do a lot of passive learning in the form of watching documentaries and educational YouTube videos, but that information doesn’t sink in. It’s too passive.

Active learning involves more focus. Take notes. Move. Listen intently. Find the learning style that works best for you and put it to work with purpose.

The seven learning styles are:

  1. Visual (Spatial)
  2. Aural (Auditory-Musical)
  3. Verbal (Linguistic)
  4. Physical (Kinesthetic)
  5. Logical (Mathematical)
  6. Social (Interpersonal)
  7. Solitary (Intrapersonal)

Do you want me to write more about these learning styles? Let me know in the comments below, and I’ll write new posts on each of these!

Learn from others

Of course, you should also learn from those around you. There is a wealth of knowledge in the experiences of everyone you know, both the younger and the older. Everyone’s learned experience is different, so don’t shrug off any opportunity to hear about someone else’s perspective.

Your family, friends, friends’ family, teachers, colleagues, and community leaders are all great people to learn from. Think someone is inaccessible to you? Approach them and say, “I want to learn from you. Do you have time for a coffee?” and watch them clear their schedule for you. People love to feel approached like this.

Asking others to teach you something or to share their experiences with you is also a perfect way to find a mentor.

Recovering from mistakes

Fear not! You will make mistakes! There is no straight path in life. We are faced with both significant and non-consequential seeming decisions every day, and if there is anything certain in life, it is this: you will choose poorly.

The trick is not to get buried in angst about the endless possible outcomes of our decisions. Just make the best decision you can, based on all the available information available to you at the moment. When you realize later that you made a sub-prime decision, embrace the opportunity to assess what led up to that decision and what happened as a result. Contemplate the end-to-end process and learn from it.

Check out my book Exponential Happiness for loads more details on this and other topics to help you in your pursuit of happiness!

If you’re not yet ready to dive into a book, then please leave me a comment below with any questions you have, and I will be happy to advise you the best I can directly.

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